Before we think of reaching out for help or support, we often reach “in” first. Relying on our own experience and capacity for resilience to make it through a tough day, or a difficult year.
But unless a person has some previous experience relating to their current challenge, it can be hard to see a path forward – that is where some negative self-talk can start – which, in turn, may become a vicious cycle.
There is a book I love named “What to Say When You Talk to Yourself” by Dr. Shad Helmstetter is a self-help book that focuses on the power of self-talk and how it can influence our thoughts, beliefs, and actions. The book emphasizes the importance of positive self-talk and provides techniques for changing negative self-talk into positive affirmations.
For military spouses and parents, especially during deployment, the book’s lessons on positive self-talk can be particularly helpful. When a loved one is deployed, it’s common to experience feelings of anxiety, fear, and loneliness all of which can lead to depression. These emotions can often lead to negative self-talk, which can make the situation worse. In one study, focused on reservists, 92 percent reported feeling an increase in stress levels during their spouse’s deployment, while 85 percent said they felt anxious or depressed. It also triggered feelings of isolation — 88 percent said they experienced loneliness.
The book suggests that by changing negative self-talk into positive affirmations can improve mental outlook and cope better with the challenges. For example, instead of saying, “I can’t do this on my own,” a person can tell themselves, “I am strong and capable, and I can handle this.”
The book also emphasizes the importance of creating a positive mental environment by surrounding oneself with positive messages and affirmations. Military spouses and parents can do this by reading inspirational books, listening to uplifting music, or hanging motivational posters in their homes.
Overall, “What to Say When You Talk to Yourself” can be a valuable resource for military spouses and parents during deployment. By changing negative self-talk into positive affirmations and creating a positive mental environment, they can better manage the challenges they face and maintain a positive outlook.
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